How frustration takes over in relationships
Sofia always found herself getting frustrated with her teenage son. Whenever they argued, it felt like no matter what she said, nothing ever changed. She would leave the conversation angry and exhausted, convinced he needed to change his attitude.
But one day, while reflecting on their latest disagreement, Sofia had a moment of clarity: it wasn’t just about her son’s behavior. She realized that her reactions were part of the problem. She couldn’t expect change from him if she wasn’t willing to work on how she responded.
How to handle emotional triggers in relationships
The principle It Starts with Me reminds us that change in any relationship begins with ourselves. If Sofia wanted a more peaceful dynamic with her son, she needed to start by managing her own emotions and reactions. By becoming aware of her patterns, she could begin the work of building emotional fitness—learning to respond instead of react, and approaching her son with calm and clarity.
This process of emotional fitness takes time, but with each step, Sofia found that her relationship with her son improved—not because he changed, but because she had taken responsibility for her emotions.
5 steps to manage your emotions
Recognize it starts with you
Before expecting others to change, realize that managing your own emotions is the first step to creating positive shifts in any relationship.
Pause and notice
When emotions arise, pause and notice how you’re feeling without trying to control or suppress it. This awareness allows you to let the emotion come and go as it needs to.
Own your emotional experience
Instead of blaming others for how you feel, take responsibility for your emotions. Understand that they are part of your internal landscape, guiding you to deeper self-awareness.
Commit to emotional practice
Like any skill, managing emotions takes consistent effort. Dedicate time to reflecting on your emotions regularly and allowing them to flow naturally.
Return to the practice
There will be days when managing emotions feels challenging. What matters is returning to your emotional fitness practice, knowing that growth comes from persistence and self-compassion.
Share your experience
Have you noticed any patterns in how you react emotionally in your relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments!
About the author
5th Place
5th Place is a dynamic organization that's passionate about emotional fitness. We're the creators of Shape of Emotion, a revolutionary tool that's changing the way we understand and manage our emotions. But we're not just about theory - we're about practical, tangible change.
We offer Emotional Fitness Classes and courses that help individuals, from children to adults, build emotional resilience and well-being. For our younger audience, we've created the Vibarealm, a vibrant universe that encourages a healthier interaction with emotions.
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