It’s never about me
If you upset, anger, or hook (trigger) someone else and you did not mean to — it’s not about you. It’s about them.
If you upset, anger, or hook (trigger) someone else and you did not mean to – it’s not about you. It’s about them.
Stay centred; don’t react
If you can stay centred and not react to their response you will be doing them a huge favour and assisting them to heal their emotional holes.
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It’s never about me
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